Dream in November - 2019

We are gearing up for

MMA Belt Tests and Promotion Ceremonies!

Dreamers, mark your calendars!
Belt Tests will be conducted on Tuesday, November 12th during regular class times.
Promotion Ceremonies will take place on Saturday, November 16th according to the following schedule:
Ages 4-6: 10:30-11:30 am
Ages 7-10: 12:00-12:45 pm
Ages 11-14: 12:45-1:30 pm

  Please note: 
Dream will be closed Wednesday, November 27-Friday, November 29, 2019. Enjoy the Thanksgiving break!

 Other News and Updates

November Mini Camp spots still available!
School's out Thursday, November 7th and Friday, November 8th for the Teachers Convention. Sign up for both days or one day! Kids will learn martial arts and nature skills through adventure and play during our special Mini Camp.
Sign up here!

Our 2nd Annual Family Fun & Gratitude Ceremony is on Saturday, November 30th.
Students and their families are all invited on the mats to play and attend a very special ceremony revolving around gratitude. Please join us for this fun and cherished event.
Ceremony times are as follows:
Ages 4-6: 10:30-11:30 am
Ages 7-14: 11:30 am-12:30 pm

 
We want to extend a HUGE thank you to the families who contributed costumes and costume items for our Halloween Costume Drive! We brought our collected items to the Jersey Cares office in Livingston, where they distributed them to children in New Jersey in time for some Halloween fun and trick-or-treating!

  

Moral of the Month: Gratitude

 We can only be said to be alive when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.

—Thornton Wilder

To be grateful is to choose to focus our attention and energy on what we appreciate. Gratitude is selfless; it instills a sense of interconnectedness and good will and is the catalyst for feelings of joy and reciprocity. A grateful heart also possesses healthy amounts of many other values, like humility, awareness, kindness and respect, for example.  It is no wonder why Cicero deemed gratitude “not only the greatest of the virtues, but the parent of all others.”

Gratitude benefits our emotional, social and physical wellness. A study conducted out of the University of California, Davis, revealed that fostering gratitude can increase happiness, self-esteem and empathy levels, while other studies have shown that kids who practice grateful thinking have more positive attitudes toward school and family. Additionally, appreciating the contributions of our friends and family fosters stronger, more positive relationships.

Gratitude also highlights the fact that many of the things we own and the opportunities we have come from someone other than ourselves, leading us to understand how interdependent we all are, which may make us more inclined to treat others with respect. Gratitude has also been linked to healthier heart health and better sleep.  

“Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness.”

—Henri Frederic Amiel

Gratitude goes beyond good manners and there is a lot that parents can do to cultivate this foundational virtue within their children.  

  • Gratitude jar: At the end of each week, each family member writes down one thing that they appreciated, and then place the note in a large jar. This gets them to stop and notice life’s daily gifts. After a year of commemorating these notes of gratitude, the family can get together, empty the jar and read all the things everyone was grateful for. This makes for nice discussions about what we think and feel about the things we receive.

  • Where did it come from: Explore together the origin of some object or amenity that might normally be taken for granted (like an apple, or air conditioning). Children may develop a new appreciation once they discover the number of places/people involved or the multitude of things that had to happen to bring these things to their lives.

  • Rose, thorn, bud: This activity involves looking back on the day and recounting something we appreciated (rose), something that went wrong or was unpleasant (thorn), and something that we look forward to (bud). This incorporates nicely into a bedtime routine and promotes bonding and memory recall.

  • The silver-lining mindset: Setbacks happen all the time but making a habit out of finding the good within the bad will show children that they have it better than they might imagine even when facing difficulties. So, if their game gets rained out, a parent can respond by noting that the family has a warm house to go to, or that maybe there will be a rainbow to spot afterward.

There are so many things to appreciate in our world and practicing gratitude regularly enhances our lives. We are extremely grateful for our dedicated students and our wonderful Dream community!

Dream in October - 2019

It's October! And that means...

Buddy Week!

Save the Dates! October 21st-26th, 2019
Students, bring a pal to class and spread the fun at Dream! Buddies train for free all week!
Share this official invite link with your friends before they come to train!

Please note
Dream will be closed
Monday, October 14, 2019
and Thursday, October 31, 2019 (Halloween).


Other News and Updates

Dream is expanding its offerings! Gary T. McCabe is offering adult classes and workshops in Qigong and other modalities. Learn more about Gary here: www.relaxrenew.com or via email at garymccabe@verizon.net

Qigong Classes
Wednesdays, 7:15-8:30 pm, starting October 9!
Build and balance your vital energy while releasing stress and tension. Simple and enjoyable mindful movements. Meditation and breath work included.
No experience needed—all levels welcome.
$20/class

Experiential Workshop
Sunday, October 20th, 1-3 pm
MindBody explorations. Like getting an owner's manual to your Mind and Body, you will leave with key practical skills and an understanding of how to use your energy and intent for self-healing, martial arts, and life.
$35/person

We'll be attending the Forest Street Festival on Saturday, October 19th, and debuting our Dream demo team from 11:30 am-1:30 pm. Tell your friends, and feel free to stop by and say hello!

Dream is supporting the Montclair Ambulance Unit (MAU) for their 4th annual Fall Fest and Duck Derby in Edgmont Park Saturday, October 19th. Come root our rubber ducks on as they swim across Edgmont Park pond. There will be music, food and fun, and all proceeds from the Duck Derby will benefit the MAU!

Halloween Costume Drive! We're collecting Halloween costumes and other items at Dream. Please see our collection box for more details or to drop off a new or gently used costume item for children in New Jersey!


Moral of the Month: Consistency

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

–Aristotle

If diligence is the virtue of earnestness and persistence, then consistency is its silent and steadfast sibling. This is because consistency involves routine efforts that excel us towards achieving our goals. It is the committed adherence to the same principles or practices over time that brings us success.

Consistency is quiet and unpretentious. After all, following small, productive steps day after day may, on the surface, seem inconsequential or tedious. But it is this modest, yet faithful practice that makes consistency overlooked as the essential value that it is and enables it to outperform more romanticized attributes, like luck and talent, to bring true progress.

“If you are persistent, you will get it. If you are consistent, you will keep it.”

–Anonymous

Consistency pushes us to be in the present while propelling us, little by little, toward our future, and improved self. A consistent individual is one who is said to also be reliable, trustworthy, focused, successful and/or disciplined. These are the traits we aspire to have for ourselves and our youth.

At home, parents can see what consistency brings into their children’s lives. From bedtime routines and cleanup rituals to unwavering curfews or technology rules, consistency in parenting removes uncertainties. The trust they have in knowing what is expected brings children the safety and confidence needed to make better choices in their lives. They will learn, internalize and repeat good habits over time.

Dream in September - 2019

Welcome back Dreamers!  

Tuesday September 3 we begin our new fall schedule, CLICK HERE FOR FALL SCHEDULE

Moral of the Month: Diligence  

“Dreams don’t work unless you do.” –Anonymous

If we look back on our own accomplishments, we may likely find that the ones we are most proud of were hard earned. Perhaps they took months or years to achieve or required sums of energy or willpower we never knew we possessed. Indeed, the fruits of our labors commonly take extensive amounts of time and effort and care. And to get to the point where we can enjoy them requires, among other things, diligence.

From the Latin term diligere, meaning “to take delight in, to value highly,” diligence truly does embody a sense of earnestness in one’s endeavors. Whether spending many a sleepless night pursuing an advanced degree, taking great pains to learn a new skill, or tirelessly training for a black belt, diligence enables us to meet our goals, and to appreciate the many and challenging steps along the way.

A virtue in its own right, diligence is the application of careful and persistent effort. It is about giving your all and knowing that the outcome will reflect your efforts. In many aspects, it is its own reward. In diligence, there is patience, improvement, accomplishment and pride in a job well done. There is no wonder it is so valued.

“I do the very best I know how – the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing so until the end.”

—Abraham Lincoln

So how do we foster this essential trait in ourselves and others? For individuals, setting goals and prioritizing actions that support those goals can help to maintain focus and keep things in perspective. Check in with yourself and celebrate milestones.

Parents and caregivers need look no further than the literary world for cultivating diligence. Classic tales like The Three Little Pigs, The Tortoise and the Hare, or The Ant and the Grasshopper help to solidify diligence for young ones. Children can compare the quick, careless construction of the first two pigs’ houses, for example, with the third pig’s lengthier, more thoughtful build, or point out the differences between the lazy, frivolous rabbit and the determined tortoise who plodded on to finish first. They can also elect who, between the industrious ant and the laid-back, short-sighted grasshopper, they would rather be. Discussion can go in so many directions.

Diligence shows itself in everyday life, as well, and parents can shine a light on it by talking about their own challenges and accomplishments, helping children to set goals, praising hard work and determination, and pointing out the positive consequences of their efforts.

“Hard work spotlights the character of people; some turn up their sleeves, some turn up their noses, and some don’t turn up at all.”

—Samuel Ewing

Our students practice diligence each day they train on the mats, and with each new stripe or color belt they earn. They exhibit excellence with their hard work, and that is something we celebrate and encourage.

Dream in August - 2019

We hope everyone is having a wonderful summer! We have several important announcements. Please see below and keep enjoying these long beautiful days!  Ossss….

1. PLEASE NOTE! DREAM IS GOING ON SUMMER BREAK The school will be closed August 26-September 2.

2. The Fall Schedule will begin on Tuesday, September 3. (Please see below)

3. The Next MMA belt test is Thursday August 8 during regularly scheduled class times. MMA belt promotion ceremonies will take place Thursday August 15 during regularly scheduled class times. There is no charge for class belt tests. If your child cannot attend the class belt test on August 8 please schedule a make-up test for Saturday August 10. Please note there is a $40/test fee for make-up tests. NO EXCEPTIONS.

4. There will be a BJJ Belt Promotion Ceremony on Thursday August 15. There is no test for BJJ. BJJ promotion ceremony schedule is as follows:  

BJJ Ages 6-10 6PM-7PM 

BJJ Ages 11-14 5PM-6PM

5. BACK TO SCHOOL SALE ON COLORED T-Shirts ONLY $12.99!

Moral of the month: Kindness

The importance of kindness at first glance seems self-evident. What higher purpose can any of us achieve than giving kindness to those in need of it?

I still remember the boy who lived behind me when we moved to a new town, Andrew. Soon after we moved in, he hopped the fence and introduced himself. Before my first day at the new school I was very nervous and scared and I sobbed in the backseat of my parents’ car for a while. When I walked towards the front door where the kids were congregating, Andrew stepped out of the crowd and introduced me to everybody and told them that he was my friend and protector. That kindness is rooted in my heart. I can still recall the feeling of relief and safety that Andrew gave me that day.

One act of kindness can completely alter the trajectory of a person’s life.

It is not only the receiver of kindness who benefits from it. Studies show that being kind to others is good for you. It lowers stress and helps you sleep better at night. Also, those who observe kindness can be uplifted. Like a rock sending out ripples on the surface of still water, the good feelings that kindness produce can spread far and wide.

Any change we want to make in this world begins with kindness.

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Dream in July - 2019

Summer is here and the time is right to keep training and learning. Below are some things that you should be aware of for the next two months.

1. Summer Schedule:

a. We will be closed:

i. Thursday July 4 – Saturday July 6. We reopen Monday July 8.

ii. Monday August 26-Monday September 2. We reopen Monday September 3.

b. MMA: Mixed Martial Arts schedule remains the same for the summer.

c. Brazilian Jiu-jitsu

i. We are suspending the Mon. & Wed. 3:15PM class for 7-10 year-olds.

ii. For the months of July and August BJJ classes on Monday and Friday are No Gi. This means that students will not need their gi top (jackets) they can wear their Gi pants or Dream shorts and a t-shirt. The t-shirt should be one they wouldn’t mind if it got accidentally ripped or stretched. They should not wear their Dream t-shirts.

2. We have hired a General Manager! You will probably see Brittany Rankins behind the front desk, please introduce yourself and make her feel welcome. We are very pleased to have Brittany working for Dream, she will be responsible for billing and account questions among other duties.

3. NEXT MMA BELT TEST: Thursday August 8. MMA BELT PROMOTION CEREMONIES Thursday August 15.

4. Colored T-shirts in youth sizes are on sale during the months of July and August for $12.99!

July, we begin the second half of the calendar year with new morals of the dojo. Each moral will provide us with a theme for the month.

1. (July) Respect

2. (August) Kindness

3. (September) Diligence

4. (October) Consistency

5. (November) Gratitude

6. (December) Love

Dream in June -2019

Next MMA belt test is Thursday, June 6 during regularly scheduled class times. MMA belt promotion ceremonies will take place Saturday, June 8.

 There is no charge for class belt tests. If your child cannot attend the class belt test on June 6, please schedule a private pre-test for TODAY Saturday, June 1. Please note there is a $40 fee for private tests.

 The theme for the month of June is Awareness, one of the foundational morals for all of our character development lessons.

  • How can we be kind if we are not aware that someone is in need of kindness?

  • How can we be grateful if we don’t bring awareness to the things that deserve our gratitude?

  • How can we be courageous if we don’t first confront the fact that we feel fear and bring our awareness to the sensations of fear in our bodies?

Our mindfulness practice is our greatest tool for boosting our present moment awareness. In the domain of personal safety, where things unfold quickly and seconds are often the difference between life and death, how we direct our attention is paramount. By being aware, we can detect potentially dangerous situations and avoid them before they are a threat to our safety. Mindfulness can also put us more in touch with our thoughts and feelings so that we are better able to deal with stressful situations.

There are many ways we can work our awareness muscle. The first is simply to notice… sounds, smells, sights… when you step outside notice and point out bird song, the direction from which the wind is blowing or anything happening in your environment.

Play is the best way to get your child’s attention and help them work on their observational/awareness skills. To play, when you go into a business, make note of a few things about your environment: the number of workers behind the counter, the clothing and age of the person sitting next to you, how many entry/exits there are, etc. When you leave and get into the car to head home, ask your kids questions like “How many workers were behind the counter?” “Was the person sitting next to us a teenager or a grown up?” “What color was his/her shirt?” “How many exits were there?”

Besides keeping us safe, mindfulness/awareness has been proven to boost creativity and empathy and reduce stress.

Dream in May - 2019

Hello Dreamers!

We will be closed Saturday, May 25 and Monday, May 27 for Memorial Day Weekend.

Next MMA belt test is Thursday, June 6 during regularly scheduled class times. MMA belt promotion ceremonies will take place Saturday, June 8.

There is no charge for class belt tests. If your child cannot attend the class belt test on June 6 please schedule a private pre-test for Saturday, June 1. Please note there is a $40 fee for private tests.

Moral of the Month: Contentment

Contentment is one of the most difficult morals to embody because it forces us to swim against the tide of some of our society’s most powerful cultural and economic forces. We are bombarded with messages that what we have, who we are and what we do are insufficient. If only we did this or bought that THAN we would be happy.  Contentment requires vigilance and diligence to establish but its importance cannot be understated. Contentment with what we have and who we are, brings peace of mind and decreased stress.

A harvest of peace is produced from a seed of contentment.

—Proverb

When we talk about contentment with our students we will distinguish between contentment and complacency. Just because we are content does not mean we don’t strive to improve, grow and achieve goals. The martial way is all about moving towards our highest potential. As we work towards our goals we have to accept where we are NOW. We must walk this fine line of striving for greatness and being content with our current state. Contentment comes from a deep satisfaction within ourselves.

 I’ve often said that I wished people could realize all their dreams of wealth and fame so they could see that it’s not where you’ll find your sense of completion.

—Jim Carrey

Dream in April - 2019

Happy Spring everyone!

Here is what is happening in April:

Monday April 1- Saturday April 6 Buddy Week!

 Bring a friend to try out classes all week for free. Having a buddy to train with makes class more fun and keeps our martial arts more top of mind. We also appreciate your support helping the dojo to grow and thrive!

Monday April 22-Friday April 26

Spring Break Camp!

Nature and martial arts in a play and adventure based learning environment.

Ages 6-10, 9AM-3PM. After Care is available.  Full week $450, Per day $90

 Moral of the Month: Humility

Humility is defined as having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance.

Real humility comes from a place of strength, confidence and belief in oneself. By supporting, praising and building our children up we lay the groundwork for humility. By creating a positive and encouraging environment when they are little we can shield them against insecurity that craves constant affirmation. Someone who knows they are loved and accepted doesn’t need to boast or put other people down.

We can help to engender humility by providing our children some perspective about where their lives exist in the vastness of time and space. If you know your family tree, show them the lineage that they come from. Show them how their life is one more lifetime in a line that stretches back generations. They were not the first who struggled and persevered; many came before them and hopefully many will proceed them.

Attempt to give them experiences of things that are greater than themselves. A sunset, a sky full of stars… even talking to them about how big the known universe is will provide them an understanding of how minuscule our lives are as compared to the whole manifestation of existence.

Here is a great video that compares the size of earth with other celestial bodies. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=octRYMsiLX0

And as always, the best way for them to learn is through modeling humility ourselves.

Osss, Emilio

Dream in March - 2019

Hello Dreamers!

There is a lot going on in March at Dream Martial Arts!

  1. Our next Mixed Martial Arts belt test is Thursday March 14 during regularly scheduled class times. Promotion ceremonies will take place on Saturday March 16. There is no charge for class belt tests. There are no tests for Brazilian Jiu-jitsu.

    Private pre-tests can be scheduled for Saturday March 9. There is a $40 fee per student for pre or make-up tests.

  2. Our first ever promotion ceremony for students who train Brazilian Jiu-jitsu will take place on Friday March 29 at 6PM.

  3. We are having a Brazilian Jiu-jitsu Date Night on Saturday March 23 7- 9PM. Couples can come learn some moves and get a nice workout. Immediately following enjoy beer and wine and hors d'oeuvres! $85/couple. Spots are extremely limited so please reserve ASAP.

  4. Registrations for Spring Break (4/22-4/26) and Summer Camps are now OPEN go to our website for links and information. www.dreammartialarts.com/montclair-kids-summer-camp
     

  5. Next Buddy Week is April 1-5. Friends train for free all week! If your child brings in a friend to try a class they will receive a large Dream sticker. If their friend signs up for a membership your child gets a free t-shirt! Besides the incentives, training with a buddy is fun!


The Moral of the Month is Integrity.

Integrity is being true to yourself and living up to the values and virtues that you honor. 

We will use stories to demonstrate the meaning of integrity and show that sometimes acting with integrity requires courage and fortitude. 

Here are a couple of examples of stories we will tell during class: 

Tennis player Andy Roddick was one point away from winning a match in an important tournament. The line judge made a bad call that would have ended that match in Roddick’s favor. Roddick couldn’t let it stand and showed the judge that the ball had landed in play. Roddick actually went on to lose the match but for him it was better to lose than to win without integrity. 

A wise old emperor decided it was time to pick his successor. He gave all his top ministers a seed to plant and told them to come back in a year. Based on what they grew, he would choose the next emperor. The next year when they came back most of the ministers had lovely, lush plants except for one minister who just had dirt in his pot. The emperor announced that this minister would be named emperor. The emperor revealed that all the seeds he gave out had been boiled the one minister with an empty pot was the only one who didn’t swap the seed with another one that was fertile. 

Following rules and doing what we are told is not the same as living a life of integrity. Our goal is for students to do the right thing not because of any external directives but because they have cultivated within themselves a moral compass to guide them. Acting in line with personal values will boost students’ self-respect.

Dream in February - 2019

Greetings Dreamers!

We are closed Monday, February 18 for President’s Day.

Our next Mixed Martial Arts belt test is Thursday, March 14. The promotion ceremony will take place on Saturday, March 16. There is no charge for class belt tests. There are no tests for Brazilian Jiu-jitsu.

A private test can be scheduled for Saturday, March 9 if you cannot make the March 14 group test. There is a $40 fee per student for the private tests.

The February seminar at SubForce in Lyndhurst originally scheduled for Saturday, Feb. 16 is postponed. We will announce a new date soon.  

Registrations for Spring Break (4/22-4/26) and Summer Camps are now OPEN! Go to our website for links and information. www.dreammartialarts.com

The moral of the month for February is Honesty. Here are some tips and talking points about reinforcing honesty.

Establish honesty as value/moral of your household.

Discuss with your children from an early age that honesty is a foundational part of your family.

Being honest is not always easy.

Sometimes it seems like lying will make a situation easier and allow us to avoid punishment or difficult conversations, but in the end, it is the best and simplest course.

Join the feeling that caused the lie.

Make sure a child knows that lying is not okay, but also let them know that you understand why they lied. For example, if they cheated on a test be sure to communicate that you are empathetic that they were worried about getting a good grade. Once they feel that their feelings in the moment were understood, you can then guide them to better choices.

Praise truth-telling. When your child does tell the truth, reward him/her with praise.

Set an example. If your child sees you as someone who is truthful, they are likely to follow your example.